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Domestic Violence

Take steps toward safety.

If your partner hits, threatens or stalks you, please reach out for help as soon as you can. Riverside and San Bernardino counties offer free support to help you get to safety. There are people ready to guide you through this hard time. After all, you deserve peace, respect and care.

 

Domestic violence affects many people. In the United States, it impacts about one in three women and one in four men. Sometimes, people don’t know that what they’re going through is domestic violence. Here are some signs to look out for.

Signs of domestic violence

These warning signs are serious. Even one can mean someone is in danger.

  • Acting controlling
  • Hitting or hurting partner
  • Keeping partner away from others
  • Name calling, bullying or public shaming
  • Controlling money
  • Threatening
  • Wrecking property
  • Acting very jealous
  • Forcing sexual activity
  • Gaslighting (making someone feel crazy or unsure about what they recall or feel)

 

If your partner shows any of this behavior, it’s vital to seek help from a trusted person, counselor or support service.

Get the help you need

You don’t need to have everything figured out before you ask for help. Even if you’re not sure what’s going on, talking to someone can help you find out your options. These free resources can give you support and clear information.

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The National Domestic Violence Hotline

Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org. You can get free, private help 24/7.

Riverside County Domestic Violence Resources

Find shelters, legal help, hotlines and more in Riverside County.

San Bernardino County Domestic Violence Resources

Find shelters, legal help, hotlines and more in San Bernardino County.

For emergencies

Please call 911 for help right away.

Frequently asked questions

Leaving can be scary and hard. People may feel afraid, unsure or stuck due to finances. There is nothing wrong with you. Many people need support to get out safely.

If you’re worried about someone but aren’t sure what’s happening, check in gently and let them know you care. Listen without judging and believe what they share.

 

Don’t push them to leave their partner right away, since leaving can be hard and sometimes unsafe. Instead, offer support at their pace. Share local resources if they want them.

 

If you ever think they’re in urgent danger, call 911.

If someone has told you they’re going through domestic violence, your steady support can make a big impact.

  • Listen to them and let them know you believe them.
  • Share resources like hotlines or local help centers.
  • Help them create a safety plan for emergencies.
  • Offer help, such as giving a ride or keeping important items for them.
  • Respect their choices, even if they’re not ready to leave.